When a society loses its memory, it descends inevitably into dementia. Mark Steyn
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October 31, 2012

Barbara Curtis, RIP

Barbara Curtis, mother to many and mentor to many mothers through her blog MommyLife.net, died yesterday. To say she will be sorely missed is a gross understatement. Please pray for her family.

I only met Barbara in person once, over coffee at Panera, where we talked as quickly as we could, exchanging our "stories" (we're both Catholic converts) in the limited time we had free. As the note on her site today says, "She was a testimony to God's grace and transforming power." Exactly right. I admired her humility and honesty, rare enough qualities today and virtues which allowed her to connect to so well with all the moms who read her blog and benefited through her experience and wisdom.

This recent piece by Barbara about her son Johnny captures much of her perspective on life and wouldn't be a bad way to get to know her a little if you never got the chance:

My son Jonathan has a little extra. A little extra enthusiasm, a little extra innocence, a little extra charm. Oh, and did I mention an extra chromosome? The one on the 21st pair that inspires so much fear in parents-to-be.

I suppose at one time I was fearful about Down syndrome. But in 1992 when they placed the blue-blanketed bundle in my arms and I could see he looked -- well, just a little different -- I actually felt a sense of awe. Here will be a challenge -- so many things to learn.

In this culture, for a parent without one to see something positive in a child with Down syndrome requires a paradigm shift, I know. But if my counterculture years taught me anything, it was to question prevailing attitudes. I'd really never liked the dread surrounding Down syndrome, clouding the horizon for still-waiting-for-test-results expectant parents.

In years since, I've met many parents whose prenatal diagnosis was accompanied by pressure to terminate the pregnancy and "try again." Professionals are quick to point out the burdens of having a child with trisomy 21 -- possible medical problems, heavier emotional demands, a child who is "less than."

Which makes it hardly surprising that 90 percent of prenatal diagnoses today end in abortion.

Parents who search to learn more -- as well as those surprised with a postnatal diagnosis -- must be surprised by the hope they find when they connect with the real professionals: parents of kids with Down syndrome. For no matter how devastated they may have been to receive the news, parents almost invariably come to treasure the gift that they've received, as in Emily Kingsley's famous essay "Welcome to Holland": So you planned to go to Italy and landed in unexpected territory. At first you're disappointed. Then you notice the windmills and the tulips -- beauty you never expected to find. You discover it's not a bad place after all.

My own son Jonny is a hip and clever guy with a gift for acting, dancing, humor and making friends. At home or school he is the first to offer help, to comfort someone who's down and to laugh uproariously at the punch lines.

For 20 years he's taught me -- and others around him with hearts willing to learn -- how much more there is to life than intelligence, beauty and "perfection."

Read more at Catholic Herald
Read the rest. May she rest in peace.

If you'd like to help her family, Elizabeth Foss has made it easy to donate.

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October 20, 2012

Music break: Sinatra

I could look up some other versions by different singers but why bother?



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October 7, 2012

Music break: Autumn Leaves

Music time. A video of Frank S. singing That's Life would tie in to Steyn's great (as usual) weekend column but it happens to be one of my least-favorite Sinatra songs. So I'll go with something seasonal. You can't go far wrong with Johnny Mercer.



This is very nice, too:


Another guitar version I'd embed if I could but I can't is this gem by Chet Atkins.

See also Willie Nelson's classic version. (Try to ignore the misspelling of "autumn." Unless it's a live version, I usually post the videos for the audio only.)

Frank's serious version is here, silly version here:



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